The average couple I interviewed with kids speak uninterrupted for about 15 minutes a day!

And when they speak, it's coordinating plans, figuring out logistics, talking about work, money.

When you’re honest, instead of expecting you to give more than you’re able to, your dates can decide to accept your limitations or move on.

Christie Hartman is a psychologist and author of five dating and relationship books.

You can't be a happy wife if you're not happy.

If you don't know what you're passionate about, think about how you'd spend your days if time and resources weren't an issue. After a few years, we stop doing little things like holding hands (unless we're on vacation, perhaps) Kissing and hugging your partner will release oxytocin, and make you feel more connected.

) Sometimes feeling uninspired or bored in our relationships causes us to question if we married the right person, should have an adventure/cheat with someone else.

I believe it's up to US to create the results we want and to stop complaining and start creating!

Falling in love and being in love is different, but we can trick our brain into thinking the love is new again...which is the point of my new book.

With more responsibilities (motherhood, work etc) you can't necessarily pick up and go as you used to on dates with your man; but that doesn't mean you can't plan moments of it.

If you've booked off a couple of hours, explore a new neighborhood, be a tourist in your city.

Doing novel activities together will remind you how fun your partner is (and how fun you are! Don't think in terms of huge leaps but consider small steps to changing your relationship.

However, doing so is a bad idea – it’s a reminder that you’re still “involved” with someone else (even if in a limited way), and it turns your problems into their problems.