Your introvert side will start panicking and tell you to run for the hills, but your extrovert side will keep getting you into these situations because it’s fun to meet new people.When not out meeting new people and making friends through no fault of my own, I tend to spend a decent amount of time hiding from the friends I do enjoy being around, simply because I want to focus on a hobby.

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Do we exhibit the same traits as our peers, can we be put in a neat little box, or are we unique?

Not to get too existential right at the start – but although you’ll find that all people have certain very specific traits that make them who they are, most of us can relate on some level.

Now that I’m a bit more mature and happily married, a nice vacation or a fun weekend out of town with the Missus and our daughter is enough, but when I was younger I’d party for two or three days straight.

People who met me during the party phase tended to be surprised at how relaxed and quiet I was when they saw me mere days later.

Just one look at the online shopping statistics is enough to show you that a lot of people prefer sitting at their computer than driving around town and interacting with other people.

While I personally enjoy having a quiet day to myself once a week – ordering food and doing my shopping online, listening to music, doing a little dance as I brew a fresh cup of coffee – I still make sure that I’ve got something interesting planed for tomorrow.

You see, one of the biggest triggers that pushes most ambiverts into “fun and talkative mode” is the presence of good friends.

As long as you have someone you know well with you, you can relax because you know you can switch between casually talking to a friend and telling a few interesting stories to a few people that were part of the extended group.

However, I’m only going to party for as long as I need to spend most of that extra energy, and then it’s back to the Fortress of Solitude.

It’s easier than ever to just focus on yourself and have some quality alone time.

At some point you can’t really get anything done, because it becomes impossible to focus on the task at hand, and you end up reaching for the phone.