Now of course, a person who is avoiding their feelings will just find someone else to avoid them with but somebody who is genuinely interested in you and wants to start off on a good footing won’t mind respecting your wishes – at least they’ll know that they’re pursuing something with you because it’s they want to be with as opposed to seeking a distraction that’s going to backfire when they realise that they’re unavailable. Of course some people are separated or even divorced numerous times due to shady behaviour or due to a tad too much Fast Forwarding but that’s stuff you’ll find out through due diligence, possibly quite quickly if you have your feet on the ground and are listening and watching. I know of somebody who is getting married for the fifth time and is doing their best to hide it from their family including their own children – yeah, clearly they haven’t grown or learned a damn thing from their previous marriages. Don’t enter into an involvement with your emotional airbag inflated.

If your interest tends to get piqued by being a ‘buffer’ to someone who is transitioning, it would be more beneficial to evaluate why this is attractive to you.

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It would be handy if we could avoid the vulnerability that comes with doing the due diligence and taking appropriate action where needed.

What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.

So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parents’ generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life has not.

It’s not about you getting all your needs met through another person.

Practicing self-denial and self-sacrifice, patience, understanding, and forgiveness are the fundamentals of a great marriage.

In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer.

This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to anything in real life. After reading this piece, I was inspired to take a crack at something I’d been chewing on: “11 Rules on Marriage You Won’t Learn in School.” Rule 1: Marriage isn’t about your happiness.

And it takes a real woman to be content with and respect one man for a lifetime. Divorce may feel like a happy solution, but it results in long-term toxic baggage. If you want something that is easy and has immediate gratification, then go shopping or play a video game. Rule 10: As a home is built, it will reflect the builder.

Rule 6: Online relationships with old high school or college flames, emotional affairs, sexual affairs, and cohabiting are shallow and illegitimate substitutes for the real thing. You married your spouse because he/she is different. Most couples fail to consult the Master Architect and His blueprints for building a home.

I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.