We start out as people attracted to one another and subtly negotiate how often we'll talk, get together, in person.

Maybe it's a first date and one of us can't wait for the other to call, to initiate time together.

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Or just try to wait patiently for him to contact you? A guy I’d been seeing and having a great time with suddenly disappeared without a trace.

You see, during our “time-out” week, I did a lot of research online about male dating habits and found the “rubber band theory.” I delved a little deeper and everything I read pretty much made perfect sense in my situation.

If you constantly call, text, email, show up unannounced, etc., he’ll never miss you. So when you find yourself in this situation with the guy you’ve been dating… If things had been going well, chances are, he just needs some space and he’ll be back in touch in a few days.

And if you don’t ever hear from him again, then let him go. And you wouldn’t want to be with the type of guy who would pull the permanent disappearing act. A 16 year old fangirl trapped in the body of a 39 year old 1D AF single mom of three.

The theory suggests that men are like rubber bands; they pull back, need to feel tension, and then snap back. trying to end a relationship is certainly NOT the only reason men pull a disappearing act.

Of course, one reason guys pull away is because they ARE simply not interested, which is a very rude and cowardly way out of a budding relationship, but it sadly does still happen. In fact, when a guy pulls away for a few days (or maybe a week or more), that could indicate that he’s feeling very strongly about you!The blog is NOT to diagnose, treat, or replace human to human legal, psychological or medical professional help.References to people, with the exception of myself, and events except those about me, and even some of those, are entirely fictional.. I decided that the best way to handle it was to NOT chew him out or question his whereabouts. Out of the blue, he just disappears without a trace. I was pretty surprised, but decided to think about my response and I waited several hours before getting back to him.This behavior is unlike women, whose natural instinct is to spend as much time together as possible.