By listening to your gut, paying attention to red flags, and understanding that actions speak louder than words, you cut down on wasted dating time.

In doing so, you not only avoid getting played, but you also greatly increase your chances of relationship success.

When you hear a song you think a guy would like, send it to him on Spotify. Next time you're buying concert tickets for a band you love, buy two—and don't immediately decide who gets to be your plus-one. The key is getting the guy out of a familiar context. That's what happened to one guy Massa interviewed who met his now-fiancé on a volleyball team.

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Let this be your new mantra: Everything and nothing is a date.

"You'll be missing out on all sorts of opportunities to connect with guys if you're simply waiting for them to ask you out," Massa says.

By going on a second date, you’ll gain a better understanding of who they really are and if you’d like to see them again.

Rule #2: Pay Attention to Red Flags Like those internal alarms that alert you to your gut feelings, you also have an alarm system to alert you to red flags. As a result, we often ignore red flags and find ourselves getting involved with inappropriate partners because we’re not paying attention.

Make yourself available to who you might meet and where the evening could take you."The more you're open to letting guys show you all the different sides of themselves, the more likely you'll surprise yourself and fall in love with one of them," Massa explains. Finally, you and The Prospective Boyfriend are doing something romantic that could lead to something serious.

Remember that he's already your friend, so there's a whole lot that he likes about you, Massa says. That means no crazy makeup or boob shirts when he's used to seeing you casual.By paying attention and screening out potential partners whose actions don’t match their words, you cut down on wasted dating time and make it that much easier to attract potential partners worth your time and energy.Rule #4: Don’t Play Games Successful singles know what goes around comes around.If a potential date’s actions or words set off an internal alarm system, you owe it to yourself to pay attention and act accordingly. For example, if you’ve met someone online and they seem interesting, then you talk to them on the phone and they sound completely different (in a negative way), you may decide not to meet them in person.A positive example would be if you were on a date with someone and they seemed nervous but well intentioned, your gut might tell you to give them a second chance.With the emergence texting, Facebook, Twitter, Skype, BBM, i Phones and online dating, Fein and Schneider have added extra tips and chapters to guide 'Rules' women through this type of communication and how to stick to The Rules.